How to Date Your Wife
You may have heard someone say that the key to a healthy marriage is to continue to date your wife. But what does that actually mean? Should I be an immature goof trying to impress her all the time, nervous and sweaty around her, always thinking about her? Here are some of my thought about what it might look like to date your wife:
1. Put your best self forward
When you are dating, generally you want to be impressive and attractive to your potential mate so you work hard to be the best version of your self. At some point in marriage we all get comfortable and complacent and decide that we don’t need to try as hard. I am here to tell you that it is the opposite. With kids and life going on, we must try harder than ever to woo our wives. This start with you being the best you can be; physically, emotionally, spiritually, helping around the house, showing up as a father, etc.
2. Go on regular dates
It can be tough with kids to still connect with your wife on an emotional level and make sure you are on the same page. A regular date night is a great way to reconnect and keep the romance alive. It doesn’t have to be expensive and extravagant but it should take some of your time and energy to plan. Think about the things she likes to do and do that. It isn’t a date if you are just taking her along to do one of your hobbies with you (unless she likes it too). A nice dinner and a walk around the city is an easy go-to for me. Let me also encourage you not to go see a movie because that pretty much defeats the point of getting to connect and catch up (unless of course you have dinner beforehand).
3. Think about her
This is one of the halmarks of someone newly in love. “I just can’t stop thinking about her” is something you commonly hear and it is true. When we are dating, we spend a lot of time thinking about the significant other. Planning our time together, thinking about what you’re going to say, imagining yourself with them… you get the idea. Imagine how much better your marriage would be if you spent that time of creative mind space on your wife. Wondering about her, planning time with her and just generally obsessing over her. She would love that. Obviously we have to think about other things in our daily lives to function correctly but might I suggest you spend some creative energy thinking about your wife?
I am sure there are many more ways you can date your wife but hopefully these few tips will get you going in the right direction.
