We recently took our kids out into the woods and I was reflecting on some of the seemingly contradicotry lessons that kids learn while being, not just outside, but in completely wild places. Risk & Wisdom In wild places there are times when kids will want to jump on rocks, climb trees and push themselves…
In an earlier post I talked about why men should consider getting married young. In this post we will talk about a few other things that men should be working on in their 20s. Delayed adulthood is an epidemic in our culture and men are taking longer and longer to grow up. If men can…
You may have heard it said that ‘it is not about the quantity of the time you spend with your kids but the quality of time spent.’ I understand the sentiment of that statement and I agree with that statement to an extent but with some nuance. If you mean, by that statement, you should…
There are many different approaches to discipline and people have just as many opinions. To spank or not to spank. Gentle parenting vs authoritative parenting. Everyone has something to say. I read a couple things last week that really helped put things into perspective. The first framework was coaching vs. disciplining. In coaching, we are…
There is a common joke among men that their wives are the ol’ ball-and-chain. Men love to complain about their wives and say “I’d love to come hang out but my wife you know…” It may get a laugh but at what cost? You may think, ‘well, she doesn’t hear it so it won’t hurt…
I was changing my toddlers diaper the other day and despite the smell and overall disgusting nature of the task I realized that we were both enjoying ourselves. It is such a rare occasion in our modern life to slow down and just look at another human being. It would be awkward to do that…
I recently read a book about the neuroscience of relationships, theology and connection. One of the points that the author made was that people and children in particular make meaningful soul connections with people that bring joy to their life. The author was applying this to our relationships with in church and with God but…
There is a significant body of research that suggests that boys who grow up with a father in the home experience certain advantages compared to those who do not. Here are some statistics that illustrate these differences: So what are dads to do with stats like this? Be present in your children’s lives. Show up!…
Habits have some into the forefront of the public discourse in the last few years and for good reasons. With books like Atomic Habits and others, people are realizing that habits are some of the main things that shape our lives. This is no different for fathers. If you want to be the best father…
Wondering how to become a better father? Educate yourself. Surround yourself with other great fathers. Here is a compilation video of the best advice for dads that I could find on the internet. Hopefully this is helpful on your fatherhood journey. Jordan Peterson, Russell Brand, Matt Chandler, Joe Rogan, Jocko, Paul Tripp, Matt Walsh all…